Tenets of a Winning Marriage To Be Outlined at Upcoming Conference
(SCCN) -- January 8, 2007 -- "You can be right but WRONG at the top of your voice!"
I knew exactly what this author was talking about. It's like what my pastor describes as being "dead right." As in, winning a battle, but losing the war. And in marriage, when one side loses, both do--and there is much to lose. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies.
Yorba Linda will play host to the Love and Respect conference, a Biblically-based marriage seminar that has toured all across the country and is supported by "Focus on the Family." The companion book referenced above is also available
The first two-day conference for the new year for "Love and Respect Ministries" is the Southern California Conference to be held at Yorba Linda Friends Church on February 2 & 3, 2007.
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, a former pastor and author of the book “Love and Respect,” will speak at the conference along with his wife of 30 years, Sarah. The two launched the Love and Respect Conferences in 1999 with the goal, they say, of creating "a marriage revolution." It was conversations like the one above--being wrong at the top of your voice--that helped give birth to the tenets of the conference.
Since that launched, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs has presented the Love and Respect marriage conferences to thousands of couples. He says that the unique, biblically-based teaching is changing lives, restoring bad marriages and making good ones better.
Serving
San Diego County
This is the day the Lord hath made; he calls the hours his own.
Let heaven rejoice, let earth be glad, and praise surround the throne.
News Service BY Christians FOR Christians * Promoting Good News Events and Building Communication in the Body of Christ"
I pray that God, who gives hope, will bless you with complete happiness and peace because of your faith. And may the power of the Holy Spirit fill you with hope. Romans 15:13
just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her,
so that He might sanctify her,
having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,
that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory,
having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing;
but that she would be holy and blameless.
Eggerichs, who has done both biblical and psychological research, points to Ephesians 5:33. The Apostle Paul writes, “Nevertheless let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.”
The cornerstone of Eggerichs' seminar is that happiness and harmony are not achieved by love alone. "Yes, love is vital, especially for the wife," Eggerichs says, "but a husband’s need for respect is equally important-he is designed to need respect."
The author points out that for the past 25 years, we have heard much about love, but the divorce rate among evangelicals has continued to rise. Eggerichs says, “The major problem, which I heard from wives, was ‘He doesn’t love me.’ Wives are made to love, want to love, expect love. Many husbands fail to deliver.
"But as I kept studying Scripture and counseling couples, I finally saw the other half of the equation. Husbands weren’t saying it much, but what they were thinking was, ‘She doesn’t respect me.’ Husbands are made to be respected, want respect, expect respect. Many wives fail to deliver.”
As a result, two good-willed people end up on what Eggerichs calls the Crazy Cycle: without love she reacts without respect, without respect he reacts without love—it is a painful, negative cycle that has thousands of couples spinning out of control.
Eggerichs, who has done both biblical and psychological research, discovered this often overlooked, if not ignored, truth in Ephesians 5:33. The Apostle Paul writes, “Nevertheless let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.” Eggerichs is helping women discover that they can fulfill their deep need to be loved by giving their husband what he most needs—respect.
Love & Respect is divided into three main sections: The Crazy Cycle explains the simple reason why two good-willed people negatively react to each other; The Energizing Cycleexplains how two people can positively motivate one another by doing one simple thing; and;The Rewarded Cycle unveils the rewards of a godly marriage and explains what a person can do if personal expectations are unmet by a spouse.
The cornerstone
of Eggerichs' seminar is that happiness and harmony are not achieved by love alone.
"Yes, love is vital, especially for the wife," Eggerichs says, "but a husband’s need for respect is equally important-he is designed to need respect."
“Just a few days ago, I decided to tell my husband that I respect him," writes one attendee. "It felt so awkward to say the words, but I went for it and the reaction was unbelievable! He asked me why I respected him. I listed off a few things, and I watched his demeanor change before my eyes.”
Seating is limited and registration is expected to sell-out fast. Register on-line at www.love.ylfc.org or by calling 714 777-7388.
Eggerichs left the pastorate to launch the Love and Respect Conferences in 1999. He and Sarah, his wife of 30 years, have shared their message with thousands of couples, and receive confirmations daily that it is working. In fact, Eggerichs outlined the unique “Love and Respect” message to Dr. James Dobson’s Focus on the Family radio audience last year. His message garnered Focus on the Family’s highest number of listener responses and became their most requested broadcast of 2003.
Emerson received his B.A. in Biblical Studies and an M.A. in Communications from Wheaton College and Graduate school. He was later awarded his Masters in Divinity from Dubuque Seminary, and he earned his Ph.D. from Michigan State University in Child and Family Ecology. He has served on the board of the National Center for Fathering, and is on the board of the Michigan Family Forum. He has also served on the committee for Michigan’s Year of the Child and Family with the state’s Lieutenant Governor.
Emerson was the senior pastor of East Lansing Trinity Church for nearly 20 years. He and his wife Sarah have three adult children and make their home in Grand Rapids, Michigan.
